Perl has created a moving coming-of-age journey steeped in Jewish traditions and comedic history, elegantly balancing humor with an honest look at the impact of suicide. Noah’s genuine voice and tricky situation will have readers pulling for him.
This novel is excellent on multiple fronts. A satisfying story that will appeal to all middle grade readers.
–School Library Journal
Watching Noah repeatedly sliding on a banana peel (even, once, literally) gives readers plenty of occasions to wince, to chortle, and ultimately, to applaud.
genre: contemporary fiction
age range: 10 and up
Erica Perl’s website
Please tell us about your book.
Well, first, let me tell you what it is NOT about: The Three Stooges. It’s actually about Noah and Dash, two seventh graders who are best friends and comedy junkies. That is, they were best friends, until Dash’s father dies suddenly and Dash shuts Noah out. Noah is sad and frustrated and jealous (because he seems to be the only friend Dash has abruptly rejected). So, instead of accepting the end of their friendship, Noah risks losing everything – even his sense of humor – to prove that gone doesn’t have to mean gone for good.
What inspired you to write this story?
My younger daughter’s best friend’s father, who was a friend of mine, died by suicide. And two adult friends of mine lost parents as a result of suicide when they were children. But, in all honesty, this book isn’t “about” suicide per se, though it does address the way depression and other mental illnesses can hide in plain sight. What I wanted to explore was the ripple effect of a tragedy. That’s why I chose to write from Noah’s perspective. He admired and adored Dash’s dad, so he feels the loss, too. But he is one step removed, so it is different for him than it is for Dash. And that makes it difficult for him to understand what Dash is feeling and why he is behaving differently than Noah might expect.
Could you share with readers how you conducted your research?
I interviewed teenagers and adults who had lost parents to suicide, and I read a lot of books. But the most important piece of my research was volunteering at a grief camp run by the Wendt Center for Loss and Healing. All the kids at camp had lost family members (though not all to suicide), and many of the campers I worked with were Dash and Noah’s age. By watching them work through their pain – and explore the freedom to separate from it – I came to a heightened understanding of the incredible range of ways kids process grief and loss. I tried as much as possible to capture and honor their lived experiences in ALL THREE STOOGES.
What are some special challenges associated with writing a “funny” book that explores a subject as serious as parental suicide?
It was really important to me to walk a careful line so no one – especially no one grieving – felt I was being casual or irreverent about loss. At the same time, I wanted to show how comedy and laughter can be a profound basis for human connection. And I wanted to show the way that humor can come from a place of pain while also helping people to heal.
What topics does your book touch upon that would make it a perfect fit for the classroom?
The book explores several topics that would make it a perfect fit for the classroom. These include:
- Comedy in a cultural and historical context. In particular, the kids in this book end up working on a project exploring Jewish comedy and comedians. But many cultures have rich comedic histories, and the comedy history of America is also well worth studying. There are ample video clips for students to watch, dating back to the early twentieth century – including silent film clips – that show the evolution of comedy from slapstick and vaudeville to improv, stand-up, sketch comedy and much more. Students can study how social, political, and cultural events have affected comedic styles as well as subject matter in a variety of time periods.
- Technology, privacy, and ethical dilemmas. In the book, Noah finds Dash’s missing cell phone and is torn about what to do. The choice he makes has repercussions and leads to more bad choices because of the hole he digs for himself. Students might discuss appropriate rules around personal technology and raise examples of when it is and is not ethical to violate someone’s privacy.
- Empathy about “invisible” differences / mental health awareness. When Dash’s father dies, Noah doesn’t know what to say or how to act around him. This is extremely common (for adults as well as children). When Noah learns that Dash’s father died by suicide, and suffered from depression for years, he refuses to believe it because Dash’s dad kept his suffering hidden so effectively. Students can discuss ways to cultivate a community where mental health issues are taken as seriously and discussed as openly as physical health issues and learn ways to support those who are suffering, struggling, and surviving.
Erica has graciously offered to giveaway a signed copy of All Three Stooges. To enter, simply leave a comment below sharing why you’d like to read this book. The contest closes Tuesday, February 27. US residents only, please.
Sarah M says
This sounds like it’d be a great read aloud (for being funny and serious) to talk about suicide wtih my kids.
Shelley Lincoln says
What an awesome read for my kids. A gentle way to talk about a serious subject.
Danielle Hammelef says
I really want to read this book because I want to know how this author balances grief with the power of laughter/humor to heal. It’s such a fine line and everyone is different.
luis parsons says
its sounds like a mixture of comedy but with a hint of life lessons!thank you so much for sharing this review…
Mary Cook says
I am an elementary school librarian and I am so excited to read this book and share it with my students! They adore When Life Gives You OJ and they will be excited that Erica Perl has a new book!!!
Eric Carpenter says
We’re always looking to put great new novels on our library shelves. I know some of our readers would be excited to see this new Erica Pearl title.